No one plans to get divorced when they get married, but it still happens to around 42% of couples in the UK, according to the Office for National Statistics, and the number may be rising.

Even if you have seen it coming for some time, it’s normal to feel numb. Working through the practicalities that your decision involves, can feel overwhelming.

You may be feeling powerless and angry about what’s happening if you hadn’t wanted the relationship to end. Compounded with a sense of loss and sadness.

This is a time when you need to get the support and advice of other people. You might also find it helpful to write down all the things you’ve got to deal with.

Now your life is entering a new phase.

So here’s my advice. Following some reflection, you can start planning. Every phase of your life can be controlled by you when you see the possibilities. The possibility to do what you want comes from developing the skills, mentality and financial independence. I’ll help you to develop them and keep them.

The truth is, you can afford to focus on you now. It’s your time again.